I remember Mary Tyler Moore looking anxious and very nervous at the Oscars in 81, where she had been nominated for an Academy Award for her work in Redford’s Ordinary People. She had lost her son the previous October, just as she achieved a milestone with that film. One more milestone in an already incredible career. But at the Oscars she looked wonderfully human and vulnerable. Almost embarrassingly so for those of us who had imbibed her as a sort of comical super woman whose sly comedy made us all feel complicit, if undeservedly so.

Who really was Mary Tyler Moore? Who knows exactly. Perhaps her closest friends and loved ones. We, all of us who grew up with her, think we do. We assume we do. She was part of our lives because of how innovative and captivating her characters – her creations – were. With her passing she will be claimed by everyone from Tina Fey and Jennifer Aniston to Chelsea Handler and Amy Schumer. Feminist icon for a changing America. America’s sweetheart single working girl. All of the above.

Had she passed away last week, what would have been said at the Women’s March on Washington? How she changed the narrative of prime time television? How she kicked at the glass ceiling while beaming out that heart warming smile? Yes, but Mary Tyler Moore was also one very very successful entrepreneur. Her and husband Grant Tinker’s production company were responsible for some of the biggest shows in the 70’s and into the 80’s. The Bob Newhart Show, WKRP in Cincinnati, St. Elsewhere, and Hill Street Blues, among others. All MTM production gems.

So Mary Tyler Moore’s legacy will be fought over and re-defined as a weapon in the latest round of culture wars, in which the Women’s March on Washington is the latest battle. Her memory will be staked and claimed by feminists of all stripes, academics and cultural historians, and journalists and celebrities, and the rest of us. But that legacy belongs to all of us. To anyone who spent a perfect little while sitting in front of a bulky old-fashioned TV, laughing at her wonderful cast and their innovative and charming, and sometimes edgy, brand of comedy.